10 years of friendship creates a bond between two people that cannot be found anywhere else. He is my special friend. Someone who I’ve known even before I know about BDSM and also the first person I confided in when I thought of being a professional dominatrix. I thought he would despise me for having such thoughts, but he never did, nor did he give me any weird looks. Instead, we had many small conversations and exchanged pointers on what we each thought BDSM was about. (Yes, he researched about BDSM just for me)
Over our conversations, he admitted that his stressful life caused him to have a lot of uneasiness. He was so stressed that he would often dream about work while sleeping. A job that required his constant focus and attention. A job that required him to lead. A job that required his control over every decision. He told me he needed a solace…but also that he was not submissive, and even if he did submit, it would never be with me.
After about a year of supporting me in my journey, he turns up at my door with breakfast, all smiles, and tells me that he’s finally ready. I was still a little confused at what caused the sudden change. After finally discussing with someone else, he felt he was ready to put down his power, to balance his life and his emotions. I asked him who he had chosen to be his Domme and that’s when everything changed.
He told me that he didn’t think he could submit to anyone else. There was no trust there. But with me, although he already knew me, it also meant he could trust me. For him to take that first step to put his power down…that was something that really moved me. And I am so thankful to have the privilege to walk this journey with him. I am not like other Mistresses who will tell you “I AM GODDESS”. Nor do I need to be showered with gifts. A good attitude and willingness to open up is what brings me joy.
We held a lot more conversations after that day. We were on the phone daily for 3 days (he’s a special case) before I finally felt that he was indeed ready to submit. It was finally session day. He came in with a long list of fetishes and what he wanted to accomplish in our first 3 hour session and immediately, I knew something was wrong. He was back to his same old self, trying to control every little thing. The 1st thing I had to do was to let him drop all his expectations of the 3 hour session. After all, it’s in the expectations we have that creates so much stress in us.
As for how the session went after that, I think I’ll be keeping it a secret close to my heart. All I can say is, he wore that mask for me. BDSM is my career. But never forget, it’s also my passion. Who cares about how experienced you are. It’s a journey, a companionship, not a business venture. I’ve started my BDSM journey. Have you?
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